Sometimes it takes effort to Thrive. After a busy week of travelling and being with other people nearly every day for a week (fun but challenging when you’re used to working at home alone!) a quiet night in was needed. Hubby and I decided to watch a movie and I chose Dr Strange (Benedict Cumberbatch is in it, so it’s NOT a strange choice at all!) It has some of the best effects I’ve ever seen in a movie but that’s not the point here – it’s this quote:
“We never lose our demons, we only learn to live above them.”
Now, I seriously did not think I’d ever be quoting comic book characters in my work, but the day before I saw the movie I was at a Business Mastermind with an amazing group of women I’ve been working with for several months. We have all been thriving together, a group of mutual cheerleaders and helping each other move past various humps and road-blocks. One of the many subjects we covered on our precious real-life day together was overcoming fear and doubt (those demons we all live with) and where our negative beliefs come from, so the above quote really struck a chord with me.
Like many healers, I’ve had my fair share of challenges. I thought I had done all the healing I needed to do, and fully forgiven the people I needed to forgive. But when my mum died last February, it turned out there was still a whole steaming pile of angst waiting to come up. I sat with it all, navigating my way through it with as much clarity as I could bear whilst keeping it as painlessly as I could. When I was done, I thought I would start talking about how great it feels to be a survivor – to look back at the things that shaped you and be standing proud and free. I thought maybe I could write a book about it, sharing my experiences to help others. That felt good for a while – but then I talked to someone about it and realised that I would rather be about “How to Thrive” than be stuck in that “Survivor” energy.
I’ve been living in “Thrive mode” ever since. I challenge myself to do more, be better, create more, every day but I always check in with the question “Am I happy NOW?”
Moving from surviving to thriving is the best thing I’ve ever done. Realising that being happy isn’t some unattainable goal that you have to keep striving for and can never reach is hugely liberating. It’s about appreciating what you already have, being able to find joy in what’s already around you, understanding that you are loved, and giving love in return – even in platonic relationships.
Thriving doesn’t mean that you have to become a bangle-jangling, skirt-wafting hippie (although you can if you want to!) It does mean that you understand you have the freedom to be the best version of you. It means you can let go of being controlled by your thoughts, instead observing your emotions and the thoughts that go with them to make you react a certain way to certain situations. It’s a big subject but choosing to thrive is a great first step.
Love and Gratitude are hugely strong energies and help to attract yet more of the same energy into your life. Happiness becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy when you actively choose to live in that state. Ultimately, making the decision to use them to replace the negativity, fear, doubt, even hatred that we might be carrying around with us is the strongest way to rise and remain above our demons.
In my healing work, I give you the tools and guide you through the process of easily releasing these doubts and fears and replenishing the space they once took up in your energy field with love and light. My fragrances give you the strength to stay aligned with your higher, happier self. This work represents “Thriving” for me, and brings me so much more joy than raking over the coals of survival ever could.
When do you feel at your most Joyous? What is it that makes you Thrive?